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Given that sex is one of the most natural forces in the universe, I thought I’d explain a few things to you. You don’t have to take my advice, and I don’t know everything. But when it’s all said and done and you are lying in the bed you’ve made for yourself, you’ll realize that the most significant events in your life come down to whether or not you made good choices or bad ones.
Here are five things to consider before having sex:
1) Why are you doing this anyway?
Sadly enough, commercialized hip hop on the radio makes its billions by teaching black men to have sex with any pretty thing with a working vagina. The rule is that if she’s “fine” and she’s willing, then you’d be a fool not to take it. The sad part of this story is that a lot of brothers soon find that a toxic woman, even one with a beautiful smile, can make you wish you were never born. Evelyn Lozada, the violent Sasquatch on Basketball Wives might be a perfect case-in-point.
In additional to women who can be flat out evil and devious, there are others who are walking public health alerts. Everything that looks clean is not. Speaking of which…..
2) Diseases are everywhere
When’s the last time you went to the doctor to get tested for STDs? Not just HIV, but Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Syphilis, Herpes, HPV and all the other things that can kill you? Are you really stupid enough to think that you can run through every woman you want and not catch at least two or three of these diseases (yes, even with a condom, since a lot of people don’t wear condoms when they have oral sex)? Everyone wants to blame gay black men for the fact that HIV rates among black women are through the roof, but an irresponsible heterosexual is far more devastating than a responsible gay man any day of the week.
3) Are you ready for kids?
Newsflash: There tends to be a correlation between sexual activity and child birth. Babies are not delivered by Storks, they are delivered by baby’s mamas. Some people talk about “hitting that” and “getting it in,” as if there is no chance that this woman might eventually be running around with the your child in her womb. When you choose to sleep with a woman, you may be putting your life and your child’s life in that woman’s hands. This leads to our next question….